There aren't nearly as many studies on the clitoris as there are on penises, so we don't know how much bigger or smaller our clits should be. But what we do know is that it plays a big role in sexual pleasure—about 37% of women say they can't have an orgasm without clitoral stimulation.
From the outside, you can see just a bit of it: a little hood that's above your vaginal opening and your urethral opening (the hole you pee out of). You can also feel it, though it may be hard to spot: if you put your thumb and index finger right next to each other at the top of your vulva, you should find a skin flap there that looks like a little pinkish arrowhead. That's your clitoral hood, and everyone's is a different size.
It's usually a little bigger when you're aroused. That's because during sexual intercourse or foreplay, blood rushes to the genital area, and the clitoral hood becomes erect in a similar way to how an erection appears in your penis. Eventually, after the sexual stimulation ends, it goes back to its regular size.
For this reason, we think your clit is pretty amazing. If you want to get more out of it, Abrams recommends finding ways to relieve stress, which kills libido; getting exercise to boost hormone levels; and masturbating a lot, because that helps increase your clitoral sensations. She says there are some things you can do to help protect it, too, such as avoiding clitoral piercing and making sure your doctors are clear with you about what's in store for the sensitive organ during your well-woman exams.