In the eyes of many people a good relationship involves mutual respect, companionship, emotional support, sexual expression, and economic security and, often, childrearing. However, the qualities and needs of a healthy adult relationship will vary widely from one person to another. It is important to ask yourself and your partner(s) what are the most important parts of a good relationship for you.
One of the most fundamental parts of a good adult relationship is open communication. You must be able to communicate your wants, needs and expectations in an effective manner. This will require skills such as assertiveness, listening and clarifying when misunderstandings occur. You should be able to give your partner(s) space and time to respond, and to recognize that some things just aren’t going to happen for you. It is also essential that you are willing to take responsibility for your mistakes and not blame them on others, especially those closest to you.
The quality of your childhood has a profound impact on how you relate to other people as an adult. If you experienced good enough parenting with a reasonable fulfillment of your emotional needs, you will have the ability to be a healthy and loving companion in relationships. You will be able to relate mindfully, without blind possessiveness or a crippling fear of intimacy. This will allow you to enjoy the widening ripple of love as it flows through your life. You will be able to recognize the role that trust, lovingkindness and integrity play in attracting and nurturing true love.